Actually more things are missing. First we couldnt do the test our teacher wanted to, because it wasn't available online. So we had to think about situations that happened to us in the past, and where we could solve the situation using an assertive technique.
One of my situation was when my roommate never cleaned, so I had to talk some sence into him. First I was really aggressive, but during the conversation I realized, that he is a smart guy, and anyways I had no other problem with him, so maybe it would be better to try to explain him the situation, and find a solution together. I think that I was assertive, and it was effective, because after that, he did a really good job cleaning the room.
There are lots of times when it depends on your mood how you react. I was assertive, because I was in a good mood. Maybe on a worst day, I wouldn't be able to turn my anger into calm argumentative conversation.
We also talked about our assesment in this class. As I have to leave Spain for a week, we talked with Maria José to do it this friday. So I was looking into my work, and I realized that I forgot to write a post about the meeting with Pedro Duque. Now I wont do it, because it was long ago, and I think now it doesn't matter anymore, and actually I can not write a lot about it, because it was too short, and in spanish, so I couldn't understand a lot. But I think, that with this long post, I made it up to the task :D
In my opinion there are a lot of situations, when you can not solve the problem in an assertive way, but if our aim is assertive, I mean, we want the best for us and the partner, we must choose a not assertive solution.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very good skill to decide which type of communication is the best and useful in a situation. As I see it you have to learn on what you should pay attention during a conversation to use a proper way to communicate.
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